There is no doubt that emotional intimacy and spiritual intimacy are key to a long-lasting and successful Christian marriage. However, as human as a husband and a wife are, they have physical or sexual needs that have to be satisfied. Unfortunately, some Christian couples find it hard to have sexual intimacy because of some of their preconceived ideas about sex. One of these is that there are no other Christian sex positions that they are allowed to use except the missionary position.
Missionary Position Is Not the Only Christian Sex Position
The idea that Christian sex should be confined to one sexual position is a fallacy. What Christian couples must understand is that there is no rule in the Bible that forbids married couples from trying out various sexual positions. In fact, there are certain books in the Bible, such as the Corinthians and Song of Solomon, which celebrate the physical pleasures that a husband and wife must give to each other.
Christian couples may need some help when it comes to trying out various sexual positions. One of the things that they can do is get a book or any Christian material that is tastefully written and illustrated for Christian couples who want to add more excitement to their sex lives. These resources can contain non-pornographic images that will aid Christian couples in trying out their new found, desired sexual positions. Keep in mind, couples should not be embarrassed by these materials. There is nothing wrong with consulting resources designed specifically for Christians, especially if they are doing it to help strengthen their marriage.
What Is The Right Christian Sex Position?
A better question might be, “Is there a ‘right’ Christian sex position?” In short, no. I would say the “right” position is totally dependent upon the couple and can and will vary widely among couples.
There are many sex positions (would you believe over 200) that couples can use or engage in, but they should take some things into consideration before trying out these positions. This is not to say that a position is bad or one position is better than the other. It is just that there are certain sexual positions that may or may not be right for a couple.
So what is an acceptable sexual position? First, a sexual position is right and acceptable if both partners agree to do it. Again, both husband and wife must be comfortable in doing it, otherwise, it defeats the purpose of trying various sex positions, which is to enhance and add more excitement to their sexual relationship.
With this in mind, discussing what they think about certain sexual positions or even sex in general is crucial in a relationship. Some couples may think that talking about sex is perfectly normal (which it is) and there should not be any problem with regard to this. However, they may be surprised to know that many couples do not actually talk about sex. It could be that they are too shy to talk about it, or it could be that they grew up in an environment where sex talk is taboo.
Moreover, any Christian sex position is right if it is not done for selfish reasons. If there is anything that holds true about Christian sex, it is that it must done with the pleasure of one’s partner in mind. If each of the couple has the others’ pleasure in mind, then the experience should turn out to be not only satisfying, but exhilarating for both partners.
Mutual Trust Is Needed For Couples to Enjoy Christian Sexuality
Discovering and trying out various Christian sex positions is new for many Christian couples, and some may feel awkward, if not hesitant or nervous at first. However, mutual trust holds everything together for a couple. Each must feel and know that one is not going to do anything to hurt the other. Only then will they be able to achieve complete and fulfilling sexual intimacy, which in turn strengthens the emotional intimacy and spiritual intimacy that they already enjoy.
Remember, God created mankind in His own image. He is the God of all creation and I am quite certain that His most prized creation are these amazing bodies that He gave us. Don’t be afraid to get creative in the marital bed as the two of you truly become one flesh.